Author and Poet Elaine C. Whittaker

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My boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex with him. How should I handle this situation?

This reminds me of the scripture in Exodus 14:15 when God speaks

to Moses and says "why do you cry out to me...". Moses already knew what God had told him to do but he tried to use prayer as a way to put off the inevitable. Likewise, you may already know

the answer to your question and you may have to do what you

don't want to do.

If your boyfriend is pressuring you to do something that is against

the will and the Word of God than he is not the one that God has

for you. He does not have your best interest at heart. Think

about it, God will never send someone to you that will pressure

you to disobey Him. The person that God sends you will press you

toward the things of God. This is a clear sign that this is not the

relationship for you.

Make it very clear to your boyfriend that under no circumstances

will you have sex with him. If he continues to pressure you to

sin then tell him the relationship is over and don't look back.

Do you believe it is okay to live together before marriage?

No, I do not believe it is okay to live together before marriage.

If God has ordained someone for your life you do not need a

trial period to see if it will work.There are several reasons why

I believe this.

1. Statistically, people who live together before marriage almost

always never end up getting married because there is no

true committment there. Couples who do marry after living

together usually end up divorcing.

2. The bible states that we should not give place to the devil. If

you decide to live together before marriage you will more than

likely begin to have sex before marriage because of the

inevitable temptation. Now you have sin to contend with.

3. As Christians we must protect our Christian witness. This is the

example that we show to the world of our walk with Christ.

The bible states that we should abstain from the very

appearance of evil. If the world sees you living together they

will not see a difference between your life and theirs. Even if

you are not having sex they will still believe that you are and

you will lose your Christian witness with them and they will not

believe you are the Christian you claim to be.

Do you really believe that there is a soulmate for everyone?

There are some who have no desire to marry. But there are many

who do. God knows your future and He knows your desires but

most of all God knows you better than you will ever know your-

self. He knows who is best for you and who will fit your life

perfectly. There are people who God has most definitely put

together and in our terminology they are each other's soulmate.

So for those who desire to marry and who seeks God guidance,

then there is a "soulmate" that God has for you.

When I was single all I wanted was to be married, now that I am married sometimes I wish I was single again. Is this normal?

The grass is always greener, isn't it. We always want what we

have not. To answer your question, yes it is normal to feel this

way but there could be a myriad of reasons as to why you feel

this way. Reasons can range from the most difficult of having

married the wrong person to the most simple of just longing to

have the time for yourself that you had when you were single.

In other words I cannot answer as to why you feel this way but

God can. Ask God to show you why you feel this way and how to

resolve these feelings. Ask Him to help you to be content with

what you have and to give you peace in your feelings about your

marriage. In any case you will not find closure to these feelings

until you face them head on.

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